Expatriate Alphabet: D is for Discovery
Traveling always brings about discovery and for many of us one of the goals of becoming an expat is to discover something new. We discover new cultures; new foods; new ways of dressing; new friendships; and new fun things to do. The whole expatriate experience is about discovering – and while there are tons of things to discover around us, I want to focus on discoveries that we make within us when we move.
Moving to another place creates change in our lives and, as that change challenges us, we get to discover how we are around that change. We get to discover and learn things about ourselves we may have never known. And with it we may even discover new callings in life – a new career, a new line of education, a new business opportunity.
So the D in the A to Z of Successful Expatriation isn’t only about discovering the world outside of ourselves – but it’s also discovering and exploring our internal world. Seeing for the first time things that we’ve had all along but never paid attention to is also a discovery. Kind of like the discovery of things you’ve forgotten you had… those of you, who move frequently and take most of our household with you, may remember the giddy feelings of unpacking and seeing things you’ve forgotten about because they spent a few months in transit.
What have been your discoveries – external and internal? And what other D’s are out there?
Expatriate Alphabet: E is for Exchange
When I was growing up, my friend and I used to exchange clothes. Living in a closed society where travel abroad was rare, the most prized clothes were, of course, those that came from outside the country. And it was not just the fashion statement that drew us towards those clothes; it was the ability to be part of something new, something unique, and something completely foreign.
Fast-forward many years ahead and I find myself equally fascinated by the different ideas and different ways of doing/being that I encounter whenever I live in another country. And while ideas and experiences are not physical things and cannot be swamped one for another, they too can be exchanged. It’s this fascinating EXCHANGE of what we know with what we don’t know but are willing to learn that makes expatriate life all the more attractive. I mean, where else can you find a ready-made environment for such an exchange if not in expatriation?
What has been your experience with EXCHANGE –and how has that experience benefitted your life abroad?
Expatriate Alphabet: F is for Fun and Friendships
If I have to think back to all my expatriate assignments, a couple of things in particular always come up. FUN and FRIENDSHIPS were really the two cornerstones that made each assignment worth it. Most of my good memories revolve either around having fun or making new, amazing friends and having fun with them.
Let’s start with FUN. I know that the word fun has a different meaning to all of us, but without having fun (whatever it means to you), our lives would be dull, uninteresting and boring. What’s your definition of fun? What do you like to do for fun? What opportunities do you have for fun in a country where you live now? Schedule them!
And now the FRIENDSHIPS. The friends we make in distant lands support us, encourage us, laugh with us and cry with us (well, when we really need them to). Thanks to the internet and Facebook in particular we can now keep in touch and continue to follow the lives of those friends who we leave behind as we move on to another destination. I don’t want to speak for everyone, but the friendships I have developed during my overseas assignments have been among the most special in my life.
It’s not an easy task to always have to make friends and then leave them when you leave the country (a helpful article on “How to make friends again… and again … and again” here). But it can be done and the effort is totally worth it. What are your thoughts on this? And what friendship moments do you remember?
These ABCs form part of the A to Z of Successful Expatriation™ Guide and Workbook which is available as a free download on our main site. This Guide and Workbook doesn’t only discuss the expat alphabet but also offers activities and exercises you can do to improve your expat life. Sign up for Expat VIP list and get this free download here (right hand column).