When I look at the search words that bring people to my blog, the combination of “why people chose not to belong” comes through again and again. It seems that making a choice not to belong to a community/group/religion/etc fascinates quite a few. And so I get curious – are people really choosing not to belong or are they choosing to transform?
When we move abroad, we make a choice. And while that choice can be influenced by quite a few factors (interesting career move, fascinating culture, financial reward, etc), at the root of that choice lies our innate desire to achieve transformation – to grow and evolve in all (or some) parts of our lives. So choosing not to belong is really choosing to forego convention and embrace something different. What I mean is that – choosing not to belong isn’t really about quitting something, it’s about gaining.
Evolution has always been driven by transformation – change, sought and brought about by people, moved our times forward. And so as we get closer and closer to each other and as we live across cultures, each culture brings about a transformation in us. By the same token, we bring about transformation in that culture.
So next time you are feeling down and missing the familiar, think of the transformative nature of your experiences and of how these experiences can help you grow, evolve and be at the forefront of the new evolutionary turn.
How has your expat experience been transformative for you?
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