I recently finished reading a fascinating book by Dr. Bruce Lipton — Biology of Belief. Among many very interesting things, Dr Lipton touches upon the difference between sub-conscious and conscious minds. He goes on to say that during our adult lives in 95% of the time we operate according to the programmed habits and beliefs that are stored in our subconscious mind. And that programming of the subconscious occurs mostly between the ages of zero and 6.
That got me thinking about my own parenting, the messages that my daughter had downloaded into her subconscious in the first six years of her life – and how being a third culture kid affected those messages. I realized that as we raise our kids in cultures that are foreign to us, we unknowingly pass on – without thinking – all the negative messages that come up in us in response to stress of adjustment, relocation, and simply being a stranger in a strange land.
If you think back to times when you moved with your kids at the time when they were young, what messages may have escaped your lips? What behavior may you have exhibited in moments of stress that perhaps became recorded in your children’s subconscious? What cultural misunderstandings may have influenced your reactions to things? And can you now see those beliefs coming up in your children’s lives?
According to Dr. Lipton (and to many others), re-wiring the downloaded programs in our sub-conscious takes a lot more than affirmations and positive thinking. Since our subconscious mind is our habitual mind, the only way to change the program is to engage in a completely different habit time and time again. That’s not an easy preposition, but it can be done. The best strategy, of course, is not to create those beliefs to begin with.
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