When I think of the importance of humor while an expat, one story always pops up in my memory. When we were living in one country, we once went out to a restaurant with a group of friends. There were about six of us and, when a waiter brought only one menu to the table, we politely inquired after a few more copies. He looked at us as if we were crazy and said: “Why? They are all the same.”
We still laugh today when we remember this story. Since then there have been many more stories and times when looking at things through the lens of humor was essential to staying sane. And that’s why I chose humor for an H in the A to Z of Successful Expatriation™ Series.
Humor makes frustrating and stressful situations a lot easier to handle. It almost creates an instant vacuum effect where all your anger and stress get sucked out of you and replaced with a feeling of lightness and a belief that it’ll all work out somehow. Since exasperating situations tend to happen a lot more often when we live in a foreign-to-us culture, humor can become a tool to use on a regular basis.
So next time you find yourself in a frustrating place, think of your favorite comedian/comedienne. What would he/she laugh about here?
I conclude with another story told by a close friend – a story that still leaves tears in my eyes because I laugh so hard every time I hear it:
“I was living in another country and at one time desperately needed to buy a pair of sandals. I spent days, if not weeks, looking around for a pair I would like and finally came across something that looked promising. As customary, the store only had one sandal on display, the one for the left foot. I tried it on, liked the way it looked on me, and asked the sales girl for the second one.
“We don’t have the second one. We only have this one,” the sales girl said.
I just stared at her. “Come again? You don’t have the one for the right foot?”
The sales girl shook her head.
Exhausted after several days of search and annoyed that this time it didn’t result in a purchase either, I said “Why would you display it if it’s not a pair?!” I didn’t really expect an answer.
The sales girl stood there quietly for a moment and then said: “So, are you going to take it?”
What have been your stories when you were able to treat frustrating situations with humor? Share them please!
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